Miscarriage is one of the most devastating things that can happen in your life. As is true with any form of loss, different people deal with it in different ways. There’s no right or wrong way to process grief, but it is important to pick yourself up and carry on.
Here are a few things you may want to keep in mind when trying to cope with a miscarriage:
- Don’t blame yourself: Most early miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities. There is nothing you could have done to hold on to a pregnancy that was not right from the very beginning.
- Take some time off: Allow your body time to heal. Sleep as much as you can. Watch TV, lounge around your home, eat whatever feels good to you.
- Don’t wallow: Allow yourself to feel grief, but don’t drown in it. Surround yourself with positive people and work to get better each day.
- Keep yourself busy: After your body is well rested, engage yourself in activities that keep your mind occupied the whole day. The more free time you have, the more you will keep rewinding the events of the miscarriage in your mind.
- Don’t feel obliged to ‘just forget about it’: Many people don’t like to talk about miscarriage, it is still a very taboo topic for some reason. It’s fine to not talk about it with people who are uncomfortable, but you don’t have to brush your feelings under the carpet to suit other people either.
- Find out what you can do differently next time: Although many miscarriages are inevitable like I mentioned earlier, please ask your doctor if there are things you could do differently the next time you conceive. Progesterone suppositories have been shown to help maintain pregnancy. Bed rest may help to some extent.
- Work on your health and fitness: A healthy body doesn’t guarantee a healthy pregnancy, but it will give you confidence and may help to prevent certain pregnancy complications like gestational diabetes and pregnancy induced high blood pressure.
If you are reading this because you had a miscarriage, I am so sorry for your loss. There’s nothing anyone can say or do to make your pain go away. Talk to someone who has gone through something similar, sometimes that’s all you need to do to help you get through this hard time. I know the world seems dark and hopeless now, but please know this, it will pass.