A big hello to everyone reading and I hope this finds you all well.
Since I started attending college, there is one question that I am asked very often:
“How do you manage home and studies?”
Fellow students, lecturers, family, relatives and even random strangers get this wide-eyed look on their face when they say I am not working, but studying.
I know there maybe some of you who are reading this, who have young children and want to start their second innings, either by going back to college or work. There might be something holding you back, maybe it’s the fear of how your baby will manage without you or maybe it’s the fear of how you will handle everything.
If this is you, I am here to tell you that it will be difficult, but you can do it and it will most likely be the best decision you made in your life.
Just to give you a background, I have a 2 year old son, and very good family support. There are days when things get very busy, hectic and difficult. I need coffee to bring me to life most mornings till night time when I turn into a zombie. But, I have to tell you, I haven’t done anything more satisfying in my life. If I can do it, you can, and everyone can. The most beautiful thing in life is to do the things that others say you can’t (as long as it isn’t illegal)
Tips for time management from a mom who is back in college:
1.Try to wake up and start the day early:
Mornings are the most peaceful times and that quietness and solitude is what you need to rejuvenate yourself and of course, get some work done.
2. Prioritise your time:
You cannot afford to waste time away like other students who are younger and less responsibilities. Treat every minute as though its precious and use it as effectively as you can.
3. Give yourself a break:
Your house won’t be perfect many days, you may not cook everyday, but as long as your family is mostly happy and you are mostly getting passing grades.. it’s all good.
4. Be positive:
Push yourself to be your best and always try to assess how you can adapt to fit a difficult situation rather than focusing on how bad the situation is. Success is much more about resilience and hardwork than it is about pure intelligence. The older you get, the more you realise, appreciate and act according to this fact.
For all the parents out there scared to take that leap into the working or academic world after having a baby, remember, it is good for your child to see you being ambitious. You are their first inspiration and seeing you happy and accomplished will push them forward to achieve their own dreams in the future.
I hope some of you will find this helpful. If you are in this boat, feel free to ask me questions and I’ll wholeheartedly reply and provide you the reassurance you are looking for.
Till next time.